Everything happens for a reason

So you may know by now that one of my favourite go-to quotes is the one of ‘everything happens for a reason’. But, sometimes I find this almost impossible to live by. Sometimes things happen that I can see absolutely no reason for whatsoever.

It seems to me that bad things happen to good people. And the older I get the more this seems to be the case. There have been so many tragedies throughout history, with no explanation as to why they have happened.

Why should people have to live with nothing whilst others have more money and possessions than they could ever need? Why do some people have to go through life changing illnesses whilst others breeze through life taking no care of their bodies or minds and living an entire lifetime? Why do some children have to lose their parents, some parents have to lose their children and some people lose the love of their lives?

Surely, when we sit to think about it, none of it is fair.

It is not fair that just last week one of the kindest; most generous and caring women I have ever met lost her fight to cancer. It is not fair that last week I met a man whose daughter had been murdered. It is not fair that those people that have so much to give to the world are often hindered in some way, unable to become the person that they are destined to be.

But what it does show us is that it is important to appreciate all the positive aspects in our lives. It is easy to sit and wallow in self-pity; we are all guilty of this during our time on Earth. Rumination seems to occur more times than not. What is more difficult, on the other hand, is coming to terms with the fact that life goes on.

I personally feel that one of the most damaging views to hold is that ‘things could be worse’. Whilst I am sure that this is often the case, what we must remember is that it is more important to realise that it is ok to be upset. Feeling emotional about a particular event is the human way of coming to terms with it.

I have been told more times than I can remember that I must be thankful that I am still alive. That life has been good to me, and that I should not spoil this second chance. Anyone that has either had a brain injury or known someone that has had one will understand just how frustrating this is.

Yes, I have had to relearn how to walk and talk and be. Yes, I have made an incredible recovery. But encephalitis has played its toll. I am not the person I was before, and I will have to deal with that for the rest of my life. There is still no cure for my illness. It is still something I have to battle with everyday.

So, really, I suppose what I am saying is that life’s not fair.

Bad things happen to good people.

But, rather than wallowing in self pity and constantly asking ourselves why, I think we should realise that sometimes life deals us a rubbish hand. We need to understand that being happy all the time is not possible, and therefore spend the time that we do have, living life to the full; because we never know when one of those ‘everything happens for a reason’ scenarios is just around the corner.